The real reason, at least the way I see it, why people (scientists included) cannot seem to resolve the aforementioned mysteries of “homosexuality” is because they are simply not asking the right questions. You only need to look around once to notice that many ask questions like:

  • “How do people become gay?”
  • “Why do people become gay?”
  • “What causes homosexual desire?”
  • “Why do some people become gay in prison?”, etc.

The major problem with these types of questions is that they all (more-or-less) imply that “homosexuality” exists, such that science can back its existence with reason or observation. You know from my second post, however, that science cannot back the existence of “homosexuality” because heredity will not allow its propagation. Additionally, my third post highlights that penetrative “gay sex” is, in fact, not exclusively “gay” because “heterosexuals” can also engage in such behavior. Thus, the previously proposed questions can never be decently answered because no observation can uniquely identify “homosexual” behavior while heredity gives no reason for homosexuality to exist.

What then, you may be wondering, will constitute a decent question that will help us better understand sexuality? Obviously, a decent question will not contain strange concepts like: “homosexuality”, “gay”, “bi”, “straight”, etc. Instead, we’ll start with a simple enough question – one which can be answered easily enough with scientific reasoning. From there we will be able to probe more deeply into sexuality by asking more specific questions which again, can be answered and backed scientifically.

So then, what simple question should we ask first? I suppose there might be a few to choose from but I prefer to start off by asking “What is sexual arousal?” I recommend starting with this question, as trivial as it may seem, because without sexual arousal there can be no sex. After answering this question, we will then attempt to answer:

  • why individuals become sexually aroused, and
  • what causes individuals to become sexually aroused.

From there we will be able to build a better understanding of sexuality. By better, I mean one that actually makes scientific sense while making the world a better place – I hope.

Okay, I think we’ve had enough fun for one post. So I’m going to answer these questions next time and I suppose in the mean time, you could have a guess at how I might define them.